As coach, therapist, and human being I have made it my mission and purpose in life to point people towards greater understanding of and insight into what we think defines us, inquiring into what is always possible regardless of outside influences and circumstances, body conditions and limitations, and the inner thought-worlds we may find ourselves in. I am inspired to speak to our ability of taking positive action, when we believe labels say anything about who we are and what we can or can not do.
Limiting beliefs are labels we believe to be true. Our belief in them holds us back from moving onward and forward in a new and more helpful life direction. But, when we show up open to at least explore who we are, beyond what our thinking may be telling us, we begin to see so much more about what we have going for us. As we see more more of the labels fall away without effort.
One, among many, of the labels I still believe to be true is "I'm not a mathperson", "I am not good with numbers".... Imagine how that plays out when I have to do my taxes. Not pretty, but thankfully my husband is patient, calm, and most importantly he knows to not engage but how to disengage respectfully from the conversation. This in turn allowing me to return to my natural state of quiet much quicker. (Hmm, perhaps I'll write more on disengaging with respect from another persons bad mood in another blogpost)
When we believe the labels to be true we innocently limit our expression of who we truly are, and can leave us with feelings of powerlessness, hopelessness, and resignation to move forward in life. When we are open to seeing something deeper about Life and our shared human nature, in essence seeing beyond the labels, space is created and the labels dissipate without effort. The more we see the more hopeful we feel.
In my work as a coach Hope is an essential piece in moving towards healthier life choices. When we experience hopelessness we feel powerless, and we move away from Life.
But the moment when we experience feelings of hopefulness we begin taking action towards Life. We intuitively know what is in our best interest.
So who am I to talk to you about labels you might ask. Besides the numerous labels that still innocently define me I am what the medical profession call a Zebra.
'When you hear hoof beats, think of horses, not zebreas.' An "aphorism coined in the late 1940's by Dr. Theodore Woodward, professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine" (Wikipedia), teaching medical students to look for what is common while keeping mindful not to rule out something rare.
My zebra-condition is chronic and it is rare. Essentially and in short my immunesystem is non-existent except for the immunoglobulin injections I give myself once a week, and have been doing since January 2012. The immunoligists suspect I was born with the IgA deficiency as it is genetic. Although they know a lot about the complexities of the immunesystem, in actuality they only know very little in comparison to what there is to know. No one knows why I am without the other Ig's (IgG, IgM, IgD and IgE) and MBL, but I do love the simple explanation I was given - it is as if someone flipped the light switch to off.
At somepoint someone will have an insight into how to flip the switch back on.
My story of going from not-knowing to knowing I was a Zebra is long and winding, but I will speak to the emotions which besides feeling like a rollercoaster ride played an essential part in how I experienced this circumstance. I felt a complicated mix of feelings ranging from despair, worry, sadness, and fear intertwined with an underlying stilness and true Knowing of being okay and whole regardless of my body and the emotional ups-and-downs created by Thought in the moment.
I noticed that when I believed my feelings were telling me about what I should or should not do, what I had going for me or not, I was less likely to take positive action. I also noticed that when I made decisions and moved from the place of stilness and quiet always there it was not only more clear to me what was in my best interest, I was also more likely to act on it.
It is not outer circumstances, others, our bodies or feelings that hold us back from experiencing and living a loving, content, joyful, and successful life but the innocent misunderstanding that it is so.
I will end this by sharing with you one of my favourite quotes. This one from Sydney Banks:
"Every human being is sitting in the middle of mental health -
they just don't know it."
Just like the doctors and immunologists have so much more to discover about the workings of our physical body I too have much more to see and understand about our shared human nature.
I feel continuously and immensely grateful for what I have seen thus far, and for the opportunities to share my experiences with others and listen to others tell their story.
If you feel moved to work with me you are more than welcome. The beauty of technology, email or Zoom, opens for insightful conversations with people from all parts of the world.
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Me in a nutshell
I am, for the most part, happy mom for two amazing teens, wife to my wonderful and supportive husband, acting CEO of our small household, owner of Lumen, Mental Health Educator, essential oil enthusiast, and best of all I am me.