Every morning I enjoy reading the short chapter of the day in the book The Sacred Art of Listening and sitting in silence with what resonates right then and there.
Sometimes I feel moved to write, most often lately my experience feels more private.
I listen for guidance, perspective, a quiet feeling. I am not listning for what is next but to what is Now.
Deep listening, I have found, is love in action.
If I had to make steps out of it there would be three, and they would look something like this:
First, I feel the love I have for myself.
Second, I See the other person, genuinely wanting them to have everything their heart desires. I go from a great feeling of love for myself to feeling very generous towards the other person.
Third, I feel the heart to heart connection, the space in which reflection, vision, guidance, clarity and change thrives.
It’s very simple - There is only step one, and that is really not even a step. It's a feeling from which step two and three are natural by-products.
Have you paused for love today?
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An insight is accurate information arising from the quiet space within. Like puzzle pieces finding their perfect fit.
Listening for insight is listening for inner peace. Peace is not found in thinking. Peace is what happens as our thinking quiets down.
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making plans.” - John Lennon
What if there were no goals to achieve or areas of life to divide up into segments? What if you knew you already lived the highest and brightest version of You, in all that you do?
Up until this moment you just didn’t know it.
We have a habit of dividing the areas of our life up into to segments in an attempt to create balance - family life, work life, me time, us time.
The list is endless - I know.
I’m a sucker for writing lists and attempting to put areas of my life onto a piece of paper and into a schedule of when to do what.
I’ve noticed it is my go-to thing that I do when I feel the most overwhelmed.
I do it to control. As if it is possible for me to control and make solid the fluidity of life itself.
I make those lists and schedules less and less nowadays.
I have become more sensitive to the subtle hints life gives me, that lets me know whether I’m mesmerised by the thoughts in my head or listening from my heart.
A few of the hints life gives me? Easily irritated or impatient with small things, like the zipper on my jacket not zipping the first time around. Breathing from my chest and not my belly.
Are you moving with the gentle flow of life or trying to control the current?
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Understanding is different from agreeing.
Listening for understanding is uncovering what we have in common, not whether we agree or disagree.
All human beings have in common that we think, and we each act on the thinking that we believe is true - our thinking feels true therefore it must be true, but believing something is true is very different from it being true.
All human beings are of the same fabric or energy as nature and the universe. Because we think we are separate we treat each other as separate, but in fact we are one. When we hurt others, we are hurting ourselves. When we truly love ourselves, we naturally love others.
All human beings are conscious. We are born with the awareness to Know that we think and who we are. At any giving moment the possibility of seeing this is present.
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Do you feel a deep sense of peace and relaxation in conversation with others, or are you more concerned about what could happen if you share what shows up for you in the conversation?
What if you being yourself, and being loving and accepting, is what is most empowering to the person you are with?
For me, being myself meant discovering who I am. This meant me committing to look beyond the mental stories, the beliefs, I had innocently created about myself over time.
This is what I ask of my clients - for their commitment to look beyond who they think they are for the sake of discovering the essence of who they are.
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Have you heard your heart speak? Have you listened deeply from a state of appreciation, patience, silence and presence?
I'm know you have heard your heart speak, and more than you realize.
When our heart speaks it comes with clarity and certainty - in combination a solid feeling of unwavering calm and Truth. Your Truth!
This, lets call it Knowing, is the felt experience right before the intellect gets involved - Chatting away with all the reasons of why and why not. And before we know it we have forgotten what we originally Knew.
Listen for what you Know.
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To Know the center of my being - who I am and what I want - depends on my degree of willingness to want to listen from my heart.
How willing am I to step out of the mental noise and get quiet?
To what degree do I want to Know the answer?
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How often do we listen for what separates us versus what connects us?
Looking at the state of the world - how we treat one another, ourselves, nature, the planet and beyond - it looks to me that listening for what separates us weighs more than listening for what connects us.
But what if we actually stopped for a moment and listened deeply - going beyond anything personal.
Would we be so quick to judge, destroy, harm, take over and make less than?
Because we would discover what unites us - That we are all from the same fabric.
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Today’s listening practice is about appreciation, and for me, today, that means authentically appreciating Me - all that I Know and who I am.
Believing the judgemental voice in our head to speak truth is the easiest thing in the world to do. We get lost in it all the time, forgetting in that moment, that it is always and only our own voice speaking.
It’s effortless, and yet the unsettling feelings that accompanies this voice is a form of resistance. An innate resistance letting us know that the thought-direction we are moving in, is not telling us the truth of who we are. The truth of who we are is something entirely different.
We are already Enough.
Sitting in the awareness of authentic appreciation brings me back to center. To right now. I fall out of judgmental thinking and into awareness of the moment. I feel my breath.
I invite you to take a moment today to authentically appreciate You!
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We willingly and without effort give up on our thinking all the time - in a moments distraction by the scent of a flower, as we find ourselves immersed in something we love doing, when something colourful catches our eye or when we taste food made from love.
And, when we for a moment hear and feel the depth of resonance, of something True.
In those very instances we are not experiencing our thinking but the true nature of who we are.
We describe these moments as a deeper feeling of Freedom, Love, Knowing, Spaciousness, Connection, Relaxed, Clarity, Quiet, Calm, Grounded, Presence, Hope….feel free to insert your own word.
And, it is the natural and effortless act of a deep sigh as we let tension go, as we let thinking go. If just for a moment.
A moment is all we need.
Imagine the impact on not only you or the person your are sitting across but on the state of the world when we willingly listen and communicate from the heart.
I point to the formless and constant of our experience; that we experience from the inside-out 100% of the time, that we are whole regardless of what we may think, and that we already have all we need to navigate in life. I invite you to listen.